What is Searching for Stars?

It's a multimedia memoir — part book, part mixtape, part constellation of memory. Think of it as stories pixelated through sound, image, and nostalgia — a place where music and memory echo together. Imagine getting to know a new friend through her mixtape of memories, each story another piece of a constellation slowly taking shape, like sitting together in a fireside chat beneath the stars.

What does "musical echolalia" mean?

Echolalia is when words or sounds repeat — like echoes that return without being invited. Musical echolalia is how songs and lyrics loop in memory, shaping how we feel, remember, and even communicate. It's the heartbeat of this project.

Is this a book, a blog, or something else?

It's all three, and none at once. Searching for Stars is a living memoir told in fragments — part website, part audio archive, part retro dream. Imagine a mixtape that keeps unfolding into chapters.

Who is this project for?

For readers. For music lovers. Nostalgia chasers. For kids of the 80s, 90s, and 2000s — and for anyone who's ever pressed rewind on a memory. It's for seekers of light in the dark, and for those who feel music deep within their soul. It's for the little girl inside me who dreamed of being a writer, who thought in music video formation and remembered in lyrics long before she had words to explain it. It's for anyone who carries loops of sound and story in their mind and is still searching for ways to make sense of them. It's for my children — the living record of my life and the love story their father and I have built — so they will always know who I was, and how they inspired me to finally share my voice.

The pixel art style was inspired by our kids' love of old-school Nintendo and Sega games — a love my husband and I were proud to pass on to them. Memory itself often feels pixelated — fragments, pieces, little glowing squares that come together into something whole. Vivid sensory-filled memories, retro games, mixed CDs, VHS tapes, and the texture of nostalgia. I usually start with real photos from my life or family albums, then run them through tools like ChatGPT, Canva, and PicsArt, cropping, layering, remixing, and refining until it feels right. The visual art helps bring the stories to life like a pixelated scrapbook.

Can I listen as well as read?

Yes — the site weaves together audio narration, Spotify soundtracks, and pixel art. Each story has its own soundtrack, so you can hear the memory as you read it. You can also listen to the project in its entirety on Spotify, or hear the Searching for Stars soundtrack.

Where should I start?

Anywhere. That's the beauty. The project is a constellation, and you can enter from any star. It never happens in order — it comes in bursts, like shooting stars revealing their story one streak at a time. Certain images throughout the site are clickable, leading you to other pieces that share similar characters, themes, memory vibes, or synced timelines. Small bridges between stories that hum with the same rhythm.

Will this become a book?

That's the dream. Searching for Stars is being built as a digital-first memoir, but its fragments are already shaping into a printed constellation. Someday, you'll hold it in your hands like a mixtape for the soul.

How can I support the project?

Read. Listen. Share. Tell a friend who loves music. Post your favorite piece, or just press play. Every echo helps keep the stars alive.

What inspired Searching for Stars?

It was born from a lifelong love of music, memory, and storytelling — from mixtapes passed between friends, to songs that became soundtracks for entire chapters of my life. It's both a personal archive and an invitation for others to remember alongside me.

Is this project autobiographical?

Yes — it's my story, but told through music, movies, and memory loops that connect to something bigger. While it's personal, it's also universal, because the songs that shaped me are the same songs that have carried so many others, too.

Hope Floats: A Texas Girl’s Guide to Heartbreak

I once stood in front of the Hope Floats house in Smithville, Texas not as a tourist, but as a girl who knew that story by heart.

That porch. That stillness. That beautiful house tucked behind trees like it was waiting for someone to come home. I remember just standing there, not saying much, soaking in the feeling that I’d stepped inside a movie that once mirrored my life. Not exactly. But close enough that it still floats inside me.

Because Hope Floats wasn’t just a film we rented from Blockbuster one night when I was ten. It was like a mirror cracked with echoes of beauty, cinematic and held up to a chapter of my own story that I didn’t always know how to describe otherwise.

We watched it at my dad’s house, my stepmom and I. And how’s that for poetic tension? The movie opens with a woman finding out, on live TV, that her best friend is sleeping with her husband. I remember glancing sideways at my stepmom during the scene, wondering if it was uncomfortable for her too. No one said anything. We just let the movie roll on. My real life didn’t hit the airwaves, but it came close. We had actual family friends who went on Sally Jessy Raphael and exposed an affair on national television. My mom and dad’s story played out a little quieter, but it still felt just as dramatic.

When the divorce happened, my mom packed us up and we left Texas. We moved to North Carolina to stay with my Aunt Teresa and my Nanny, my mom’s mom who became our lifeline. A soft place to land. A voice of comfort. A hand on my back when the rest of the world was shaking.

And then… she died.

Suddenly. Sharply. The way that loss sometimes happens.

So when I watched that scene , you know the one where Mae Whitman’s character, Bernice, runs after her daddy and sobs for him to take her with him, it wasn’t just acting to me. I felt it like a memory. I was her. Tears already spilling down my face before she finished the scene.

Because I had chased after someone once, too.

Because I had cried in doorways, aching for things I couldn’t hold together.

Because I had a mom who, like Birdee, stood her ground and still made mistakes. Who carried more strength than I gave her credit for. Who made me angry and proud all at once. Who tried… really tried to find her footing in the middle of the wreckage.

And because I had a Nanny, too. One who helped hold us together for a little while. Who made me feel seen and safe. Who curled her hair and wore red lipstick and whose eyes held galaxies of softness. She didn’t live to see the rest of the story. But she gave me a love that still lingers.

My Aunt Teresa was the one who recommended we watch it she said Sandra Bullock was brilliant and that it was an excellent film. Teresa has always been my favorite aunt beautiful, funny, and kind in the sort of way that leaves a lasting mark. When I graduated from high school, she gave me the best life advice I’ve ever gotten. She said, “Marry your best friend.”

Because it’s easy to show love in good times. It’s the hard times that test you. And if you’re with the wrong person, those moments will break you.

But if you’re with your best friend?

Even the worst days don’t feel so bad because you’re still laughing. You’re still in it… together.

I can’t help it I always seem to come back in my mind to that final scene one that feels like healing ya know and then Garth Brooks’ voice starts rising like a prayer over the quiet ache of the credits:

“ To make you feel my love…”

Garth’s country soul and Bob Dylan’s lyrical depth is the perfect soundtrack for a movie like this. Tender, timeless, Texas and exceptionally tuned to both the moment and the mood.

Over the years of my life, I came to love Dylan greatly, not just the songs everyone quotes, but the weird and wonderful corners of his work. Jamie bought me Tarantula from Half Price Books on one of our earliest dates, back when we were broke and burning with love. We moved around a lot in those early years… sometimes with more dreams than money. I remember one time we were completely without power, sitting in the dark. But instead of letting it break us, Jamie lit candles and read Tarantula to me out loud, like medicine that healed my weary soul.

We were in love, and broke, and full of hope.

And hope… despite it all , floated.

Sadly my mom didn’t quite get her own Harry Connick Jr. porch dance.

She didn’t get the slow motion soft focus moment where everything got fixed exactly (at least not like in the movies). But in a way… I guess I did.

I was blessed with a husband, my best friend who has held me through grief,

who fathered our children with gentleness and joy,

who read me poetry in the dark when we couldn’t afford the lights.

Who forgave me for things I refused to forgive myself for and saw light in the darkest parts of me!

Hope didn’t just float.

It carried me forward.

Years later, I stood in front of that house in Smithville again.

Not as a girl. But as a woman. A wife. A mother. A storyteller.

I didn’t cry this time. I didn’t need to.

I just stood still listening to the wind move through the trees

and thinking about everything that came after.

The girl who watched Hope Floats in her stepmom’s living room, blinking back tears she didn’t fully understand.

The one who ran after things she couldn’t hold.

The daughter who grieved.

The woman who stayed.

The kind of love that floats — even when the world feels heavy.

Some stories don’t end the way we expect.

Some endings are quieter.

Softer.

Stronger.

And if you’re lucky…

they begin again.

Because when the rain came, we stayed.

When the lights went out, we lit candles.

And when hope felt heavy…

it didn’t sink.

It flickered.

It floated.

And somehow, it found its way back to me like a star illuminating the night sky.

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