What is Searching for Stars?

It's a multimedia memoir — part book, part mixtape, part constellation of memory. Think of it as stories pixelated through sound, image, and nostalgia — a place where music and memory echo together. Imagine getting to know a new friend through her mixtape of memories, each story another piece of a constellation slowly taking shape, like sitting together in a fireside chat beneath the stars.

What does "musical echolalia" mean?

Echolalia is when words or sounds repeat — like echoes that return without being invited. Musical echolalia is how songs and lyrics loop in memory, shaping how we feel, remember, and even communicate. It's the heartbeat of this project.

Is this a book, a blog, or something else?

It's all three, and none at once. Searching for Stars is a living memoir told in fragments — part website, part audio archive, part retro dream. Imagine a mixtape that keeps unfolding into chapters.

Who is this project for?

For readers. For music lovers. Nostalgia chasers. For kids of the 80s, 90s, and 2000s — and for anyone who's ever pressed rewind on a memory. It's for seekers of light in the dark, and for those who feel music deep within their soul. It's for the little girl inside me who dreamed of being a writer, who thought in music video formation and remembered in lyrics long before she had words to explain it. It's for anyone who carries loops of sound and story in their mind and is still searching for ways to make sense of them. It's for my children — the living record of my life and the love story their father and I have built — so they will always know who I was, and how they inspired me to finally share my voice.

The pixel art style was inspired by our kids' love of old-school Nintendo and Sega games — a love my husband and I were proud to pass on to them. Memory itself often feels pixelated — fragments, pieces, little glowing squares that come together into something whole. Vivid sensory-filled memories, retro games, mixed CDs, VHS tapes, and the texture of nostalgia. I usually start with real photos from my life or family albums, then run them through tools like ChatGPT, Canva, and PicsArt, cropping, layering, remixing, and refining until it feels right. The visual art helps bring the stories to life like a pixelated scrapbook.

Can I listen as well as read?

Yes — the site weaves together audio narration, Spotify soundtracks, and pixel art. Each story has its own soundtrack, so you can hear the memory as you read it. You can also listen to the project in its entirety on Spotify, or hear the Searching for Stars soundtrack.

Where should I start?

Anywhere. That's the beauty. The project is a constellation, and you can enter from any star. It never happens in order — it comes in bursts, like shooting stars revealing their story one streak at a time. Certain images throughout the site are clickable, leading you to other pieces that share similar characters, themes, memory vibes, or synced timelines. Small bridges between stories that hum with the same rhythm.

Will this become a book?

That's the dream. Searching for Stars is being built as a digital-first memoir, but its fragments are already shaping into a printed constellation. Someday, you'll hold it in your hands like a mixtape for the soul.

How can I support the project?

Read. Listen. Share. Tell a friend who loves music. Post your favorite piece, or just press play. Every echo helps keep the stars alive.

What inspired Searching for Stars?

It was born from a lifelong love of music, memory, and storytelling — from mixtapes passed between friends, to songs that became soundtracks for entire chapters of my life. It's both a personal archive and an invitation for others to remember alongside me.

Is this project autobiographical?

Yes — it's my story, but told through music, movies, and memory loops that connect to something bigger. While it's personal, it's also universal, because the songs that shaped me are the same songs that have carried so many others, too.

1997: Searching for Stars in the Darkness

I heard 1997 by Brandon Hart for the first time with my husband just a few years back. I hadn’t expected it to hit me the way it did. This song wasn’t part of my current soundtrack. It wasn’t a song that had shaped my life or carried me through the years. It was a fresh discovery, yet it transported me back in time, back to the ache and confusion of 1997.

The song swept me back to my youth, back to a time of extreme change and heartbreak. It’s a song of raw, aching nostalgia, but also one of quiet healing. It floods me with heavy memories, but also seems to carry the light that came after.

In 1997, the world felt like it was unraveling at the seams. My family had just gone through the intense trauma of my parents divorce. My brother and I, barely old enough to grasp the depth of what was happening, were caught in the whirlwind of it all. We were pulled from Texas to North Carolina, from the familiar to the foreign, from stability to uncertainty.

I still remember, in the midst of all the madness, the peace I found in music. It became my companion, my escape, and in the middle of a time of heaviness that felt endless, music became my light in the darkness.

We lived with my grandmother, Nanny. She was such a bright star in my world, the one person who made everything feel okay, even when life didn’t make any sense. She was magic so full of grace, warmth, and beauty. I loved her deeply—she was more than family. She was my safe place, my friend, and when she passed away in 1997 everything shattered in ways I couldn’t yet understand.

I found her early in the morning, her body wracked with spasms, her eyes rolling back in her head in a way that made her look almost unrecognizable like something out of The Exorcist. (Massive stroke and heart attack) I rushed to wake my brother, and we stood together terrified and shaking as he called 911, but the hospital couldn’t save her. She was gone. That moment, that loss, became a defining point in my life. I was so small, yet the weight of that moment made me feel like the world was crumbling.

The grief that followed was suffocating. The world we had built in North Carolina was already starting to fall apart. My brother and I were separated of and on again after her death. He went to stay with friends or Dad, and my mother and I stayed with others. It was as if everything that had kept us together was suddenly ripped apart, and I found myself lost in the silence, disconnected it seemed from everything I had ever known.

As soon as I fall into this song I am thrown back into my past...the confusion, the tragedy, the pain. The song takes hold of me like a vortex of memories, back to my youth, where every day felt uncertain and unstable. Leaving me in the wake of how blessed I am to have my husband and best friend by my side. I didn’t even realize how much I needed to hear these lyrics until they burned deep beyond my ears.

The music it’s like a portal— It’s like the past and present collide, I don’t just feel the echoes of my past I hear the promise of my future. The weight of the years mixing with the hope of what’s to come. It’s a living part of my ongoing story. Each note a thread that ties together the pain of my youth with the love I’ve found in my husband.

“I don't care where we're goin'

As long as you're with me

I'll never feel like I'm all alone

Don't care where we're movin'

If we're together

It'll always feel like we're at home”

And as it plays, through the pain I feel the warmth of the light at the end of the tunnel, the comfort of knowing that, no matter what we face, we’ll always have each other and not all days are dark days. Jamie you are my brightness… I love you so!

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She Gave Me a Beautiful Window Back to My Soul: Healthy Is the New Skinny (A letter of light and gratitude for Katie Willcox)

By Lauren Nixon-Matney • February 2, 2026

I don’t remember deciding to look in the mirror. I was already there, half awake, the house finally quiet in that fragile way it gets after a feeding. Same bathroom. Same light. A body that no longer belonged only to me, still learning its new outline. I tilted my head, not with panic, not even sadness just habit. Like checking a bruise you already know is there. Like waiting for an apology that isn’t coming. What annoyed me wasn’t what I saw. It was how quickly my brain tried to narrate it. The subtle inventory. The mental before and after photos. The unspoken timeline of when I was supposed to “feel like myself again.” I remember thinking, with a tired little laugh, Wow. I just made a human. And I’m still doing this. Still scanning. Still measuring. Still standing here as if my body hadn’t just done something borderline miraculous. And the most unsettling part wasn’t the criticism it was how normal it all felt. Like this was just part of motherhood. Like this quiet self surveillance was simply another thing you were supposed to carry. I didn’t necessarily feel it all at once. There was no dramatic breaking point. It was more like a quiet irritation that refused to go away. The kind that taps you on the shoulder while you’re trying to move on. I remember standing there thinking how strange it was that my body could do something as massive as bringing a whole person into the world and somehow still be treated like a problem to solve. How quickly the conversation had shifted from look what you did to okay, now fix it. I hadn’t failed at anything. And yet, the language in my head sounded like I had. That’s when something finally clicked not so much with anger or rage, but with clarity. This wasn’t intuition. This wasn’t health. This wasn’t even coming from me. It was inheritance. Passed down quietly. Polished to sound responsible. Framed as care. And once I saw that, I couldn’t unsee it. Katie this is where you enter the story… Someone who said the thing out loud that I had only felt in pieces. Someone who named the difference between discipline and disconnection. Between health and harm. Healthy Is the New Skinny didn’t tell me what to do with my body. It asked a better question altogether: What if the problem was never your body in the first place? That question rearranged everything. You gave me language where there had only been pressure. You replaced noise with permission. You handed me tools not commandments and trusted me enough to use them. And that trust mattered. Because the moment I stopped fighting my body, I started listening to it. And the moment I started listening, I realized how long it had been trying to take care of me. It felt like getting this beautiful window. Not to change myself or crawl through but to finally see clearly. I kept thinking about how these things actually get passed down. Not through lectures. Not through rules. But through the tiny stuff. The comments made in passing. The jokes you barely even realize are jokes. The way you talk to yourself when you think no one is listening. Especially kids. Especially daughters. It hit me one night, sitting on the edge of the bed, that someday they wouldn’t need me to explain any of this to them. They would just pick it up. The same way I did. The same way most of us did. Quietly. Without consent. That realization felt clarifying. Not heavy. Just honest. Some patterns don’t need a big exit. They just don’t get invited into the next room. And because of you, Katie, I found the strength to stop fighting myself. To stop trying to fit my body into some mold it was never meant to belong in the first place. To me, you are truly one of the most beautiful women and souls in this universe! Beautiful is the woman who breaks cycles. Beautiful is the voice that replaces shame with truth. Beautiful is someone whose work doesn’t just inspire it liberates. Thank you for changing how I live inside my body. Thank you for changing how I mother. Thank you for helping me choose health over punishment, presence over performance, and confidence that doesn’t ask permission. You saved me in ways you may never know. Thank you so much for opening the window. I’m raising the next generation with it wide open to limitless views of beauty! Lauren